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đ There Is No Burnout Where Love Exists.
Hard work is not the cause of burnout.
Where I donât belong.
Like a loveless marriage, a plucked rose, a crooked frame.
When things donât align, a horrible picture emerges. Out of place, out of harmony, a sight for sore eyes, a pain for deaf ears.
A heart is still, or beating for someone else. A rose slowly withering. Doing what you donât want to do, wasting time, energy, and effort.
Burnout comes from doing too much of what you hate. Burnout doesnât happen when you do much of what you love. Working hard for what you love brings fulfillment. Doubt, resistance, fear, and fatigue will still exist, but it will never be as tiresome and soul-sucking as giving and giving to something you donât care about.
The answers within.
Our souls, hearts, and minds constantly tell us what they want. When we donât listen, they only get louder, until one day they disappear. Or do they? No. They never leave. We just turned a blind eye, deafened our ears, caged our hearts, until all we hear are muffled whispers. Ones that may get louder in the dead of the night, upon seeing a flash of something, but are then quickly quieted.
Ones that surface above but are quickly drowned by a sea of distractions, mindless thoughts, numbing actions.
Youâll kill a dream, violently, before it has even seen the light of day, and you donât expect its ghost to haunt you for eternity? Whether the ghost is real or imagined is up for debate. But then again, just because itâs happening inside your head, doesnât mean itâs not real.
Nothing will ever be enough.
Restless, empty, hollow.
Fidgeting, biting your nails to the quick, losing sleep.
Lost in the clouds, dreams of paradise, anywhere but here.
Humans. Human life, emotions, thoughts, and actions. All so complex and constantly evolving yet so very static and boring.
What are we without the one thing our hearts nudge us towards our whole life?
Fill a void with every random thing and it will be nothing but water in the ocean. Fill it with the missing piece and the picture will be as clear as clean water.
Funny how a heart and soul want one thing, and a mind ruins everything, whatever lies outside of this body ruins it all. But then again, what is a love story without all the obstacles standing in the way of fated lovers reuniting?
Would we have ever known the strength of their love if not for the strength of their hardships?
Burnout doesnât come from hard work.
Burnout doesnât exist where love does. Love is a powerful fuel, an energy that goes into whatever you do. There is fear, doubt, failure, and fatigue, always. Life is characterized by contrast and polarity. But a motherâs love, a lifelong passion and on the other hand a tiring relationship, a dreadful job can mean the difference between life and death.
Most people think working hard causes burnout. But itâs actually working hard on the wrong thing, because if it does not light up your soul, how will you ever get better at it, how will you become creative or even give it anything more than the bare minimum?
The things we love and that bring us joy donât require much prompting to do them. We naturally lean into them. Thatâs not to say the things weâre destined to do will always or ever be easy, or that theyâll always feel good. But you can feel it within you, whether somethingâs right for you or not.
Anything worth doing will be hard in one way or another. And it will always take time. Would you trust a bridge that was built in a day? When you throw love into the mix, none of this sounds dreadful, overwhelming, or anxiety-inducing. It sounds exciting and maybe itâs tinged with a little fear, a little anticipation. But arenât all the best things in life a little scary?
A fun rollercoaster ride, a trip to a completely new place, falling in love.
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I feel a very big difference in myself when doing what I believe aligns with me and what doesnât. Since my everyday life contains both, and I try to give both my all, (blame perfectionism, my love for Dostoevsky, or whatever else) thereâs still this gaping difference, in the sense that uncertainty in what I love looks like actively looking for a solution versus dreading it and being anxious. I work hard because Iâm a perfectionist and it feels good, but I always feel like itâs not worth it, and since studies âobjectivelyâ matter more, they sometimes trample my writing, and I hate that. I always want to be prioritizing this. Because it matters, because itâs the end goal. Because itâs what truly aligns with my being, itâs whatâs been there all along.
Leila,
Excerpts from Divine Rivals by Rebecca Ross:
âRoman stood in the sunshine and read every word of her article. He forgot where he was, where he was standing. Where he was going. Where he had just come from. He forgot everything when he read her words, and a smile crept over his face when he reached the end. She was writing brave, bold things. And it had taken him a while, but he was ready now. He was ready to write his own story.â
âI admire you, in more ways than one. Keep writing. You will find the words you need to share. They are already within you, even in the shadows, hiding like jewels.
Yours,
-Câ
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